Terminology

A glossary of the slang used across this wiki and the wider dating-advice and Red Pill community. Terms are explained the way the community uses them. Where a page on this wiki covers the idea in depth, it's linked.

Core ideas

Alpha: Behaviour that signals leadership, confidence and high value. Usually describes individual behaviours rather than a fixed type of man. See The difference between Alpha and Beta.
Beta: Behaviour centred on providing (resources, comfort, validation). Valued in the right amount and at the right time, but seen as low-value when given too early or too freely.
Frame: Your own picture of reality and of yourself, and how steadily you hold it when others push against it. See Building Frame.
Game: The set of learnable behaviours used to create attraction. Inner game is mindset; outer game is what you say and do. See Inner Game, The Hierarchy of Game.
Hypergamy: The idea that women instinctively look for the highest-value partner available and keep checking whether their current partner still measures up. See Briffault's Law.
Red Pill / Blue Pill: Borrowed from The Matrix. The Blue Pill is the conventional script for dating and relationships; the Red Pill is the community's term for rejecting that script in favour of what it sees as how attraction really works. See The Red Pill.
SMV / SMP: Sexual market value (what you bring to the table) and the sexual marketplace (dating seen as a market).

People

AFC: "Average frustrated chump": a man who hasn't learned how attraction works.
AMOG: The alpha male of a group, or the act of out-competing other men in a social setting.
Incel: Involuntarily celibate.
MGTOW: "Men going their own way": men who opt out of dating and marriage.
MRA: Men's rights activist.
Orbiter: A man who stays close to a woman he wants, hoping friendship turns into more. It rarely does. The situation is known as the friendzone.
PUA: Pick-up artist.
White knight: A man who reflexively rushes to defend a woman, or women in general, without looking at the facts.

Behaviours and situations

DHV / DLV: Display of higher (or lower) value: anything that raises or lowers how attractive you seem.
IOI: Indicator of interest: a sign she's attracted. See Indicators of Interest.
Neg: A light, playful tease that shows you aren't intimidated. It's not an insult.
Oneitis: Fixating on one woman who isn't returning the interest.
Plate theory: Dating several women casually until one earns exclusivity.
Rationalization hamster: Community slang for explaining away a choice after the fact, so that what someone says and what they do no longer seem to conflict.
Shit test: A challenge or tease, often unconscious, that checks whether your confidence is real. See Common Shit Tests, Shit Tests 101.
Snowflaking: Insisting you're unlike everyone else ("I'm not like other girls").
The Wall: Red Pill term for the age at which, in their view, a woman's dating options start to shrink.
The Carousel: Red Pill term for a period of casual dating with high-status men before settling down.

Abbreviations

LTR: Long-term relationship. See Healthy LTR.
NAWALT: "Not all women are like that", the usual reply to generalisations.
POF: PlentyOfFish, a dating site.
Seddit: Reddit's r/seduction community.

Core ideas

People

Behaviours and situations

Abbreviations

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