5 Female Attraction Switches

A model that splits female attraction into five "switches". Each is a question she's subconsciously asking about you. The more you can answer "yes", the stronger the attraction.

The five switches

1. Leader: Is he confident? Do people follow him? Can I look up to him? Could he protect me?; From an evolutionary view, she's drawn to a man at least as capable as she is, strong or smart enough to look after a family. See Guide to Dominance.
2. Emotion: Does he understand me? Do we have real chemistry?; She needs to feel physically and emotionally safe. Social and emotional intelligence, loyalty to friends and family, and genuinely understanding her hopes and fears all count.
3. Excitement: Is he fun? Does he make me laugh and feel good?; Humour, adventure and new experiences. See Cocky Comedy.
4. Success: Does he have passion and drive? Is he going somewhere, and could I come along?; Two people who energise each other get more out of life than either alone. Ambition and a positive outlook matter. See Strong Identity.
5. Sex: Can I connect with him emotionally, sensually and physically?; For most women, trust, comfort and connection come before physical intimacy. See Make Any Girl Sexually Attracted.

Using the model

Most men lean on one or two switches (say, humour or success) and neglect the rest. Ask yourself which ones you rarely trigger, and work on those. A man who hits all five is rare, and very attractive.

The five switches

Using the model

See also