Submissive
This page argues that many challenges a woman puts to her partner are dominance tests, and that responding with calm leadership, not appeasement, is what she's hoping for.
The argument
- The original author (from the ZenDevil blog) sees healthy masculinity as leadership and decisiveness, and healthy femininity as receptiveness.
- When a woman keeps pushing against you, she may be testing whether you'll hold firm. Hold firm when it's appropriate. Throwing your weight around when it isn't will backfire.
- In his view, relationships have no true "equality" of leadership. Someone leads, and men who insist on equality have, as he sees it, simply handed over the lead. He asks the reader to picture any strong, mission-driven man and whether his partner would want him to be less decisive.
Why it matters to her
A second contributor adds that she wants you to pass. If you crumble, it reflects badly on her choice of partner. She's rooting for you.
He describes his own marriage: whenever his wife was upset, he apologised and promised to do better, and she got angrier, escalating from the specific issue to his "whole history". Only when he finally stood his ground did things settle. He concluded the arguments were rarely about the issue itself.
See also
Summary of a post from the ZenDevil blog, with a personal account shared on Reddit's r/TheRedPill.