Why Promiscuity is Acceptable for Men and Not Women
A Red Pill explanation of the sexual double standard: why many people see a man with many partners as successful and a woman with many partners as less desirable for commitment. The argument rests on the claim that men and women aren't the same.
1. Evolution and paternity
- Traits common to almost all people usually exist for a reason. Most people avoid danger because those who didn't left fewer descendants.
- Before DNA tests, a man could never be sure a child was his. Men who preferred partners with fewer past partners were less likely to raise another man's child, so the argument goes that this preference spread. It shows up across many cultures.
- Women never faced that uncertainty, so they didn't evolve the same concern.
2. Scarcity and value
- People value what's hard to get. A designer handbag is exciting partly because it's rare; if every woman were handed one, it would lose its appeal.
- The argument: for an attractive young woman, finding partners takes little effort, so a high count isn't seen as an achievement. For most men, attracting many partners is hard and requires raising their value, so a high count signals that other women found him desirable.
- The author stresses this is about number of partners, not how much sex someone has. Being enthusiastic with one long-term partner is a plus.
Summing up
Comedian Jim Jeffries' line and an old saying about keys and locks are often quoted to make the same point: achieving something hard is valued, and achieving something easy isn't.
See also
- Schedules of Mating
- LTR Checklist
- Healthy LTR
- Sources (fidelity and partner-count studies)
Summary of a post originally shared on Reddit's r/TheRedPill (2015).
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