LTR Checklist

A screening checklist, from a Red Pill perspective, for deciding whether a woman is someone to commit to or keep casual. Main message: think it through before committing, because people present their best side early on.

Deal-breakers (in the author's view)

Keep it casual at most if:

She's a single mother.
She has serious unresolved issues from a difficult family background, or a personality disorder.
She's a heavy drinker who regularly blacks out, or uses hard drugs.
Her social circle is mainly about partying, or mostly male "friends".
(The author also listed meeting on Tinder, sleeping together on the first meeting, and sex work.)

Red flags

Address the issue, or proceed with caution, if:

She's still close friends with an ex.
She cares a lot about money: asks what you earn, talks about expensive tastes, buys luxury items to show off.
Her dating profile is still active but she "never checks it".
You met at work, or she's in your close social circle (complicated if it ends).
Her social media is a constant stream of selfies and attention-seeking posts.
Strong attention-seeking in her appearance or behaviour.
(The author also listed self-described feminist, sorority membership, being "one of the guys", solo travel after college, and being divorced.)

Green flags

Her photos are with female friends and family.
Educated, from a stable family, with a career.
Exercises because she enjoys it, not for the likes.
Does volunteer work.
Introduces you to her flatmates early.
Never just cancels: if she can't make it, she says so in advance and suggests another time.
Cooks at home rather than living on takeaway.
Drinks moderately.
The author's favourite: she asks whether you've been recently tested for STIs before you first sleep together. It shows responsibility.

Deal-breakers (in the author's view)

Red flags

Green flags

See also