Desire for sex vs desperation
There's a fine line between showing desire, which is attractive, and showing desperation, which isn't. This page draws the line clearly.
Definitions
- Desire: openly and unapologetically showing that you're attracted to her.
- Desperation: changing the course of your life for one particular woman.
Desire shows confidence and a healthy sex drive. Desperation makes you look easy to use.
Examples
Desire (good):
- Holding eye contact with someone you find attractive.
- Complimenting something about her you genuinely can't stop noticing.
- Sitting relaxed and open once you're talking.
- Natural touch, like a hand on the back to guide her.
Desperation (bad), from mild to worst:
- Buying her drinks or snacks: a minor foul.
- Driving her around when she doesn't need it.
- Giving up hours so she can vent to you.
- Expensive gifts when you're "just friends": the worst place to be.
The rule
Forums often say contradictory things: "own your desire" but "be outcome independent"; "approach confidently" but "don't be a slave to women". The line between them comes down to four words: don't sacrifice for her.
General self-improvement (training, a better wardrobe) doesn't count as sacrifice. It improves your whole life, not just your chances with one woman.
See also
Summary of a post originally shared on Reddit's r/TheRedPill.