Style's Cheat Sheet
one of the most important things that I've learned during my time in the Game is that it applies to just about every human aspect of human social interaction.
However, there's a structure involved. When you master this structure, you're going to be able to get what you want out of life, whether it's a the perfect woman's phone number or closing the sale. And below you'll get a the structure of the game in it's shortest most potent form: a cheat sheet for you to print. This is priceless for newbies, but even if you are advanced and have a lot of experience, it's good to refresh your memory.
Here it is:
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1. Open
Opening is exactly what it sounds like: This is when you approach and start up a conversation with women. You're trying to pique her interest, get her curious about who you are and have her listening to whatever you have to say next. You're making her comfortable in conversation - this is where it all begins. What You're Doing Here: The main thing you're doing here is building a foundation. If you can't make a connection that piques her interest and has her curious about who you are right away, no demonstration of higher value is going to work to help you seal the deal.
2. Demonstrations of Higher Value (also refer to Red Pill Theory)
Demonstrations of higher value are things you do that make you appear confident, interesting, exciting and sexy. You don't need to actually think that you are any of these things. Rather, you can engage in behaviors that make you appear that way; If you believe that you are, all the better. What You're Doing Here: This where you really start making attraction happen. You're telling stories about who you are and maybe even saying things that shock her a bit. This is also where you engage in push and pull -- you push her away to pull her back into. You're starting to create sexual excitement and tension. If you don't have that going for you, your emotional connection is going to land you right in the friend zone.
3. Creating an Emotional Connection
Creating an emotional connection is how you get a girl looking for you at a bar when you've walked away to talk to your friends. This is how you get her to seek you out when you're not around; how you have her thinking about you the morning after the two of you meet.
Want her to text you in the middle of the night when she's feeling lonely? You're going to have to create an emotional connection.
What You're Doing Here: This is where you start using Evolve's identity stories to connect. You don't just want to list facts about your life. You want to tell her who you are, how you became that way and what's interesting or important to you about it. Then you want to give her a chance to do the same. Don't just go silent and wait for her to talk. Try and tease out her answers to learn more about her and show interest. A lot of men don't do this and you can easily and quickly start setting yourself apart from the rest of the pack by being the guy who not only has stories to tell about himself, but is also interested in the stories she has to tell.
This kind of emotional connection is absolutely necessary to make a woman feel comfortable when the time comes to seal the deal.
4. Call to Action / Create Physical Connection
No matter what it is that you want, you're going to have to come out and go for it. Everything that you've been doing is building up to this. You've opened your set, demonstrated value and created an emotional connection. The good news is that the hard work is done.
Now it's just time to connect the dots and put the pieces together.
What You're Doing Here: Most of the time, you should to be creating a physical connection long before you go in for the kiss. Opening a set with a palm reading is a great way to begin creating a physical connection early in the night. You can then escalate touch.
Alternately, you can mention that you know of this great spot 20 minutes before you actually ask her to join you there. This is called "seeding." You can seed for a kiss both by escalating for touch and by giving her a compliment that you call back to when you go in for that kiss.
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Print it out and put it into your wallet. Or alternatively save it on your smart phone. That way you can remind yourself of the big picture whenever you want or need it.