Online Dating

Get Laid With Online Dating

Part 1

For those who aren’t exactly experienced with meeting and dating new women, online dating is great. You can send messages and talk to attractive women from the comfort of your own home. You can sit in front of your computer in your boxers with Cheeto dust in your fingers and still get phone numbers.

Well it’s not exactly that easy, but once you get down the messaging routine to meet women online, you should never have a dry spell again… as long as you have great pictures.

As you will soon find out, your pictures are absolutely the most important aspect of online dating. Girls (and guys) are practically window shopping from a massive selection of people searching someone attractive that at least meets their standards. Even if you have the most fitting personality for her, it wont matter if she’s not attracted to you.

We will go over in every step of the way, how you can: create the right profile, get sexy pictures, message tons of women, and set up dates. I took this straight from a couple chapters in my eBook, as it’s much more valuable to be accessed by anyone.

At first we’ll focus on things to figure out first and what to be aware of, then following that will be details of exactly how to message and meet women.

Enjoy! ~ (Remember to go create a profile soon after you read this)

2 Most Important Factors

I’m going to start off with the two absolute biggest factors with succeeding with online dating. They are:

1. Your Pictures
2. Hitting the Numbers Hard

These two factors are likely the result of around 90% of your results online. If you have great pictures and can play the numbers game, you’re pretty much guaranteed to get laid unless you say something stupid in your profile or messages. The competition online is fierce and you generally need to look better than the next guy. Fortunately, a lot of guys online are clueless of what they’re doing. If you were to create a profile with a girl that’s 7 out of 10, you’ll get bombarded non-stop with messages from guys – from needy paragraphs, spewing compliments, and/or aggressive and sexual comments (which now usually get banned).

When you send out a bunch of openers, they will either be:

1. Never Seen – It’s sent to a profile where the girl doesn’t use it anymore
2. Gone to a fake profile – Small percentage but does happen
3. Blocked from Restrictions – sexual messages or sent too many of them
4. Seen but not open – The girl judges your thumbnail and decides to not bother open it.
5. Opened but not replied – Looked at your profile and didn’t like it enough…. Or thought you are not the boyfriend material she’s looking for
6. Opened and replied but not serious – The girl just wants attention, someone to talk to. Likes to have orbiters (guys in her friends zone/texting buddies)
7. Opened, replied, and somewhat interested – This is obviously the one you want.

As you can tell, most messages sent to women won’t end up going anywhere. This is why sending only 100 messages ever won’t cut it. Fortunately if you actually do send enough openers, there are plenty of women online who are very willing to reply and meet guys.

Respond Rates

The percentage of women who reply to you is not always the best numbers to go by. A near 40 year old friend of mine has about a 3% respond rate with POF and does extremely well online. He messages very attractive women who are considerably younger than him. On top of that, his profile screens a lot of women out who are clearly not DTF (down to fuck).

There are also guys who have a 40%+ respond rate, but don’t get laid due to messaging unattractive women or using funny openers. They will say some “funny” joke or pickup line to get a response, then boast how well their doing online. These funny type openers will make you look like some Mr. Funny Man, not a sexual cool dude. Those replies will likely not go anywhere or worse, you’ll become their texting buddy.

There is nothing wrong with using humor in your profile or when messaging women. The problem is using too much or not the right type. Give the image that you’re a cool, sexually experienced attractive guy that’s happens to be funny, instead of total clown that relies on his jokes for everything. If you’re going to use humor, best to use it in a more of a playful and flirty type way.

Which Dating Sites To Use

My experience and success is with Plenty of Fish and OkCupid. These two sites are the best to get laid. This is due to:

These sites are often very popular, allowing you to hit the numbers hard without running out of women Younger crowds, more girls that are your type. Not too heavily relationship focused. There are girls who are down for one nighters, girls who are commitment seekers and everything in between. The balance between both ends is perfect for gaining the most experience. I recommend using both sites to start – this can help you hit the numbers harder, which I’m sure you know now why that’s a good thing. One thing to mention is that OKC has a lot more lesbians and bisexuals….I have no idea why.

If POF or OKC aren't popular where you live, hopefully you can find a site that has a lot of people and lets you send mass amounts of openers with ease. Other options that are decent but I don’t have as much experience with is Tinder, meetme, match, and zoosk. The current best one of those is Tinder. It’s a phone app which has more recently become very popular.

Phone Apps

Phone Reminders – Use the apps that create notifications, not alarms. Have them remind yourself for things like: blitzing, texting/calling a girl, confirm a date, and even to go on the date. There are a lot of women to meet with and it’s really easy to forget these things.

POF/OKC Apps – This is near mandatory if you want to really succeed with online dating. If you only use your computer, you can’t reply back right away when a girl contacts you. Conversations that would have gone back and forth for days are now done in just minutes. Most girls will likely reply when you’re offline, be ready to reply back with the POF & OKC apps on your phone.

Swiftkey – It’s a keyboard app for your phone. It remembers your sentences so you don’t have to type them out. If you always use similar phrases like: “What’s some of the best things about yourself?” you can just press a few letters instead of typing it all out. This app may not seem like a big game changer but you’ll start to love it once you have several new women talking to you every day.

Messaging Restrictions

40 Opener Maximum – POF has a limit on total openers you can send in one day. If you go over the 40, all openers will then become blocked for 48 hours

3 Identical Openers Maximum – POF has a limit on total identical openers you can send in one day. If you go over sending 3 identical openers, all openers will again become blocked for 48 hours

Sexual Talk – If you say anything sexual in your conversations or profile on POF, there’s a chance your account will become deleted.

Age Restriction – POF won’t allow messages to be sent to people 14 years younger or older than you. If you want to get around this, you could always just take away or add a few years to your age on your profile

As for restrictions on OkCupid, it’s hard to exactly tell since they've never released that information. A good idea is to follow the same basic guidelines as you do with POF.

Rejections & Dependence

I know there is going to be some of you who will have troubles accepting the fact that you need to get rejected a lot to be successful online. Realize and accept that it’s going to happen. If you get upset every time a girl doesn't respond to you, you won’t get anywhere.

I can go online right now and do a full blitz and easily get “rejected” by every girl I message. But I know if I keep hitting the numbers hard the day after and the day after that – they’ll be some who won’t reject me and want to meet up. Try not to get phased by a bad day or two of blitzing. If you look good and are in a good location, girls will pull through. The crazy thing is how you never know how cool (or shitty) some of the girls online are that you met with. Who knows maybe that one girl you’re messaging could end up being a great fuckbuddy for a long time or even your girlfriend if you’re looking for one.

Pictures

Online dating thrives on your looks more than any other source for meeting women. You should confidently believe your pictures are the best that you’re capable of. Otherwise, they might just blend in with all the usual boring, lame, nice guy profiles out there.

Your attractive pictures as well as your profile should convey:

Cool - Relaxed, Chill, and Popular. This highly reflects on your clothing style in your pictures, as well as your text in your profile.

Fun – No dull or boring pictures. Your fun side is necessary in this type of profile. This can be done a lot of different ways in pictures of you with your friends, at a party, at a concert, or anything like that.

Sexy/Your Looks – You need to create attraction. This means your natural looks, but also includes your style, grooming, tan, etc. ~~If you can’t tell if your photo is sexy. Go to www.okcupid.com/mybestface to get it rated. Try and get at least an 8.

Power/Success (optional) - If you don’t feel like you can pull off a bit of the sexy type theme, a good alternative is power/success style like mentioned in the Sex Appeal chapter. This can be tricky to do but an example could be you in your business suit or driving your fancy car (if you have one). Women find the whole money and power look to be sexy. Best part is that it’s possible to pull it off even when you’re not the best looking guy on the block

Cover as many points of these as you can. If you can cover at least 3, you’ll be more attractive than 90% guys online.

I used to think okCupid’s mybestface app is ok, but after more research, I have determined that this app isn’t ok. It is terrible. You might as well just randomly select a picture because the results from this app appear to be random for the most part. Why does this app suck so much and why should you avoid using it? Read on.

It doesn’t compare thumbnails

Comparing picture to picture is ok, but a lot of the action your profile is likely to receive is due to a thumbnail image, not a full size image. okCupid has somewhat indirectly remedied this issue by making the browse feature show larger images, but thumbnails are still an important component of online dating which you must account for. That picture of you riding a Ducati might be cool in its full 12 megapixel glory, but when a hot girl is looking through her visitors tab she may just pass over some microscopic image of what looks like a happy meal toy.

The sample set is low for the methodology

Usually a completed report only has around 50-60 votes. When each vote themselves contains such little information as A or B (with no quantitative measure like a 1-10 scale would have) your score is more likely a function of the arbitrary spattering of people who viewed you as opposed to your actual looks. There is some research that suggests the A or B approach gets more "accurate" results (whatever the hell that means) but not when the sample set is so small. This is easy to prove, for example, I have routinely had the same image score as much as *10*pts apart (out of 100) in tests.

Give to get kills any credibility

Perhaps the biggest flaw with mybestface, the reason you might as well just randomly pick a picture versus using this app is the "give to get" model it employs. In order to get a completed report, you must first rate a bunch of other users, sometimes as many as 80. Now, what is your actual incentive to take the time to fairly rate the images you see? I’m going to say: NONE. I suspect that the vast majority of users simply hit 1s or 2s as fast as possible just to rate enough pictures to get their score. In other words, mybestface gives seemingly random results because the ratings are more or less random! Give to get can work in some settings, but when integrity of the "give" matters, the system fails woefully.

Judge looks by results

So, how should you judge your looks if okCupid’s mybestface is more or less worthless? Unfortunately, good old "hot or not" (the old version that many of you are too young to remember) doesn’t exist anymore, and even that is still a "rating system". The best way to evaluate your pictures is by results! Simply change your picture on your profile and note the differences. You can even spend a couple bucks and use one of the "Boost" features on okCupid to quickly get the picture in front of a lot of women who are ACTUALLY BROWSING FOR MEN, not just clicking random 1s and 2s to get their own score.