Building Frame

“Be extremely subtle even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent s fate.” ? Sun Tzu

We all know that how we act and react to people around us is one of the more important aspects of how people perceive us, you act beta you are treated like one, be alpha and see what happens.

But what I'm going to touch in this post goes a step beyond that, and is how you (and everyone) is being "programmed" daily to the reality that people around you presents.

Let’s starts with the base of everyone’s persona, and that’s your childhood, children are fascinating in the way that you can see how a children is educated (programmed) about good/bad, morality, empathy; without the mask that all the people learn to use on day to day life.

When we are young we are taught how/when to eat, bath, clean, do our homework, chores, etc, basic functions to live in the modern world. But what children learn, does not only come from different orders and lessons that are given to them (take a shower/clean your room), they learn from the actions and reactions that the leading figure projects.

You all have seen that typical (most of the times obese) children in the mall crying his/her eyes out and generally being annoying to get what he/she wants and sadly more often than not, the parent surrenders and buys said thing for the child.

Now, what does this teaches the little one?

If I miss behave, I can get what I want

Like so, unwillingly the parent is "programming" the child to miss behave in order to fulfil a desire.

The spoiled little princess that throws a fit for the most inane things is also the entitled bitch who demands to get everything just because she has a vagina.

The same happens with women (and most men, sadly). You have seen the usual case, when at first the wife is a good wife, but as the time passes you see that she doesn't cook that often, takes care of her, etc. And this happens not only because of them, but because of YOU. Every Time you detect a negative behavior and choose to let it continue, you are in fact programming your wife/gf/plate to behave that way.

Side note: A very typical case in new relationships is that women tend to programm men with affection the "betafy" them, and not knowing best they fall for it, with the known consequences.

Now this happens all around us daily, is just that is not that obvious since people as they grow up become better in masking their emotions, and get better at get what they want through deception.

Your actions and reactions shape the reality around you

Take this motto by heart, and make it part of your conscious cognitive process, as I said people learn how to mask and deceive to get what they want in life, but most of the time this behaviors are not premeditated, they don't do it consciously they were "programmed" to do so.

You on the other hand are aware of these subtle games that the brain plays, and are able to make a conscious decision on your next act.

And even though is possible to do a drastic reprogramming of people around you (dark triad), I'm advocating here more of an inner projection to build FRAME. I mean that you are only changing the reality that the people have associated with YOU, but you are not changing their core beliefs.

You ought to teach people what to expect from you, what your boundaries are, choose your actions well, choose what to reward and what to punish.

By mindful of what you do, by mindful of what you say.